So... this morning she's been pretty good which is why I want to do this now. I don't want to just post when things are terrible
Some of her behaviour of late has been:
- Destructive - breaks things just for the sake of it
- Aggressive - hits at things when she doesnt get her way
- Moody - can go from fairly happy to screaming tantrum in seconds. Yesterday I rang A while she was having a tantrum because he doesn't get to witness it
- Stubborn - digs her toes in big time if she wants something
- Rude - talking back A LOT
A few things she's done recently have included:
Combing the brand new towels my aunt gave the girls when Stephi was born - they have threads hanging off everywhere that I had to trim last night (her towel is the worst)
Made mud and threw it around the yard.... I had a clothes line FULL of washing that had to be rewashed
Ripped things apart and when I've asked her why "because I want to and its mine"
Constantly snatching things off Gabriella and screaming in her face
Really nasty, scary, aggressive talking and actions
Something else that concerns me is that she's going to be that kid that noone wants their child to be friends with because she's over the top with emotions. She told one of the dads at kindy that she loves him and gave another one a kiss. I'm embarrassed and worried about it. My brother even told my mum that he's concerned about her wanting to cuddle and kiss so much
Gawd... now my tears beginI feel like I'm failing her as a parent but I just don't know where to turn. I've tried talkign to her about things but she basically switches off. I've given her time out and she sits there screaming at me or cracks the shits and constantly demands to know when she can go again. I don't think she's really understanding why she's there even though I follow through with talking about why she's there and try to get her to recognise the behaviour.
The worse her behaviour gets the worse I react to it which results in worse behaviour - we've been on the spiral too long at the moment
Yes, we're all tired and sick but that's no excuse. Something needs to be done and it needs to be done now. I want to speak to her kindy teacher to see what her behaviour is like at kindy. So far there has been no mention of it being an issue but I think I need to approach them and ask outright. It will have to be while A is home so that I can do it in private
She is obviously missing daddy and adores him - she gets upset if I say that I'm going to tell daddy about something - but I can't do much about that other than make sure he spends QUALITY time with her when he's home. I've signed him up for parent help while he's home and might sign him up again later in the term.
I would love to spend one on one time with her but there's just no chance at hte moment. Because she can fend for herself she tends to come last for attention. I've tried letting her stay up a little later than G but often that doesn't work because S is still up and needing attention. G has sort of dropped her day sleep and once again it doesn't always coincide with S sleeping so still no chance of time for just us. I think I'll need to just do something next week with just her while A is here - just make sure I feed and settle S before going off
I really am feeling quite overwhelmed at the moment. I mean, the fact that I'm telling someone OTHER than A is an indicator. I actually spoke with my mum about it last night. For the first time in ages we spent 1.5 hours on the phone chatting and that was probably a third of the conversation. She asked me what my plan of attack was and I told her I had no idea. All I wanted was to get up this mornign and see how things went - we have a birthday party this arvo so made sure Ashleigh was reminded of that and she actually went to sleep well. Pity they were all awake during the night though
So yeah... I need help. I don't like 4.5 years.....
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